Celebration of Family

Today would have been my Mom's 91st birthday and in 2 weeks my Dad would turn 98.  These important dates in my family are a cause for celebration, gratitude, and reflection.  The most important lesson that I have learned is the importance of a strong nuclear family.  

Mom and Dad played extremely different roles in my life.  Mom was there, every day, insuring that I did the things that I was supposed to including homework, bathing, taking care of the dogs, eating well and many others.  She prepared meals most days (Dad liked to cook so he did on his free time) and insured that the house ran smoothly.  Dad worked, and worked and worked.  Most time he worked 7 days at Fisher Body as well as an additional 5 days at Tomchak Tires.  Sunday and one day during the week were his days off at the tire shop and he relaxed by planting and caring for a huge garden, mowing grass, painting, working on cars, helping others in our family and in the neighborhood and more.  Most days I got to see Dad at dinner.  He wasn't talkative but paid attention.  After school I often went to the tire shop to see him after school and worked doing odds and ends in order to spend time with him.  When he wasn't working I followed him around assisting with chores, things like pulling weeds, trimming edges, moving things out of the way for his mowing, handing him tools, holding the flashlight, etc.  When things went well we had time for a game of catch or to play with the dogs.  He demanded excellence.  There was no excuse for anything but an A in school.  Projects had to be done well.  The ultimate sin was making a mistake on something that we were doing together because it indicated that I wasn't paying attention.  As a kid it was rough but as an adult I know it forced to me to learn skills, overcome obstacles and persist.  

Earlier I mentioned the nuclear family and it's importance.  You see, mothers and fathers have different roles and as children we learn different things from each,  Both sets of lessons are equally important.  My Mom gave up her career when I was born and I didn't understand the sacrifice growing up but I do today.  In my family it wasn't done because of the role of women, but for what was best for me.  Dad had a capacity for work like nobody that I have ever known and I don't know that he had the skills to guide and nurture a child 24/7.  Mom gave up a certain amount of independence and I am sure many dreams but I never remember her complaining.  I am happy with the person that they taught me to be and I owe my happiness to our strong family bond.  Love you Mom and Dad!